Happy Tuesday!!! I know I am a day late, but yesterday I was crazy busy in the morning and honestly, I forgot to post lol. MY BAD. But I am kind of happy I did because it gave me a little time to think about what I wanted to talk about. I know I was on the Mateo and I trail, but this morning, for some odd reason, I remembered my next door neighbor. I thought “humph, I wonder what he’s up to”. Then I remembered “oh yeah he got married, to a girl that hates me and I wasn’t invited to the wedding after 21+ years of friend ship”.
I really cannot tell you why I thought about that this morning, but for some reason it really irritated me and got under my skin. I want you all to think about this and don’t just brush it off your shoulders, I mean really think about it. Have you EVER had a best friend (more like brother to me) completely remove you out of their life because of a significant other? Because maybe you didn’t like that significant other or they didn’t like you? Well I have! His wife hates me, not just dislikes me, literally hates my guts and when someone doesn’t like me guess what? I don’t like them. YES I’M PETTY I KNOW! I tried to be the bigger person on countless occasions, but it just ended up in name calling, fights, etc….
BUT this wonderful neighbor of mine, who I thought actually gave a shit about me, didn’t do a damn single thing. He is in the Marines and when he would get home I usually would be so excited to see him, hangout with him, whatever. I remember when he told me he was going. It was on my front porch and I started immediately crying. He was like a brother to me, it was sad! We have known each other since 4 or 5 years old and we did everything together; traveled, holidays, birthdays, family gatherings etc. But back to my point, yeah, he didn’t do shit. He eventually stopped talking to me, stopped telling me when he would be home, stopped telling me when he was leaving again and kind of slowly just ghosted me. And it was all because of his current wife….pretty fucking sad if you ask me (or whipped you can decide).
I could sit here all day and call them mean names, shit on them and down right tell all the dirty dark secrets about our ENTIRE friendship, but I am not going to do that (because I am pretty sure it would ruin his marriage) I just wanted to get my point across, that no matter what, a significant other should not cause you to remove people from your life. ESPECIALLY ones that were so important to you. However, this made me start to realize that, maybe he didn’t really care about our friendship and that I was never “important” to him. So I kind of stopped trying. I actually am pretty sure that I have him blocked on everything and his family blocked on everything, but it doesn’t really matter when they literally live 10 feet next to you.
I don’t know where he is, what he’s doing, or what his life really consists of and I don’t want this post to make him think I care. This post is simply to get frustration out because it pisses me off that someone can just do that to another person. The farther you go in life the more you realize who is and isn’t a true friend. He clearly wasn’t. Love will make you do crazy things I guess.
MANY of you will think this post is harsh and I am sure I will get A LOT of back lash from it, but there are things people will be opinionated about and I cannot stop that. This is simply how I feel. I will respond to all comments and messages as they come in 🙂